Is He Really The One?

Whether or not your partner is right for you is one of the mostimportant decisions of your life. Your entire future depends on thesechoices so how can you be sure you have the picked the right one?Well, the first thing you need to do is honestly ask yourself why youlove or are in love with your partner? You would be surprised at theanswers you hear when you ask that same question to your friends.The wrong answers to that question include the following:Because they love me.It's better than being alone.I don't want to hurt them.Because I am not sure I would find someone better.These answers indicate a relationship built upon fear, insecurity andpity.There are good matches out there, but if there are too many ifs, andsor buts, then sooner or later the relationship will fail. Now thatdoesn't mean you will break up, you could stay together for the restof your lives and still fail as a couple.So the question still remains, how do you choose the right partner?Obviously you are going to choose a partner that you are physicallyattracted to. Apart from that aspect, there are a few important areasyou should look at:Communication Level-When you talk to them, are they on the same levelas you? How long does it take them to answer your question? Do you getbored because they answer everything else under the sun rather thanthe question you asked or do you enjoy the tangents they take you on?Do they speak very slowly compared to you? Do they understand youwhen you speak? Can you really talk to them about absolutely anything?This may not seem important now but could you imagine living withsomeone for the next 50 - 70 years that can never answer a directquestion, frustrates you to no end by their speed of communication andjust doesn't get it when you are trying to explain something to them?Common Interests-This is really a given. You have to have something incommon with them to be able to be with them. Otherwise you will havenothing to talk about and nothing to do together. Yes, physically youmay have great sex,but how far can that really take you? When twopeople have different interests, one person usually ends upsacrificing their desires for the other person... or you end up livingcompletely separate lives.Ambitions-Do you both want the same things in life or are they goingto hold you back? Are they willing to let you have that career youhave always wanted. Even if it means working long hours plus going toschool at night?Ethics Level-Do they have the same values as you? Would they feeltotally OK doing something that you would have strong objections toor vice versa? Do you have the same beliefs on major issues such asreligion, prejudice, raising children etc? If not, is this somethingthat will become a problem in the future?Grooming and Cleanliness- Are they a slob and you the type of personthat likes to keep the house immaculate? Do you take the same level ofcare of your appearance?There is a lot of false information about relationships out there. Oneof the biggest lies is that opposites attract. That is really just amyth. Now a lot of the things listed above do come down to personalchoice.It comes down to what you are and are not willing to accept. Justbecause you have fallen in love with someone does not mean that theyare the righT one for you. The number of people in physically oremotionally abusive relationships should be testament enough to that.One thing is for sure. Do not settle for something less than you wantbecause you are scared of hurting them, being alone or you feel thismight be the best you can get.You never know what you might have missed that was right around thecorner.Settling is always settling, no matter what way you look at itBy doing so, you will be left with a lifetime of what ifs.love doesn't ask "why?" for it is a reason itself... love doesn't ask"what if?" for it is willing to risk all...love doesn't ask "untilwhen?" for it knows only forever...

ALONE

some things are not meant to be kept forever...
you know you have to stop
and let go when things aren't going right,
and everything you have are abused...
it is wiser to be alone but happy,
than be with somebody who does nothing but to make you feel stupid...

JEALOUSY

Feeling Jealous
Jealousy is one of the toughest feelings we come up against in our lives. There is not much worse than this aching sense that somehow life has been unfair to us, while amply rewarding someone else. It's even worse if that someone else is present in our daily lives, making it difficult for us to get the space we need to feel and heal our pain. We may be jealous of a sibling, a dear friend, or even famous personalities. We may even face the challenge of feeling jealous of our spouse, our child, or one of our parents. Whatever the case, we can normalize our experience by understanding that, as painful as it is, jealousy is a common human feeling.

Nevertheless, it is important that we not revel in our jealousy for too long, feeding it with inner talk or gossip with others. If we do, we run the risk of losing ourselves to its negative power. Jealousy has something good to offer us, though, and that is information about our own heart's desire. When we are jealous of certain people, we want what they have, and if we are to be conscious, we must acknowledge that. In this way, we discover what we want for ourselves, which is the first step to getting it. It may be a certain kind of relationship or a career. Whatever it is, it is possible that we could create it for ourselves, in our own lives, if we are able to honor our own desires.

Of course, there are times when we cannot heal our jealousy in this way, and then the lesson may be about acceptance and the understanding that our path is different from the paths of those around us. It may be hard to see now, but perhaps it will eventually be clear why our life has taken its particular path. In the end, the best cure for jealousy is the recognition that the life we have is full of its own meaning and beauty, utterly unique to us—a gift that could never be found in the life of another.

CHANGES . . . . .

its been awhile since i write something here, almost 2 months of not writing anything. busy with the transition thats happenings from 1 LOB to another. i was able to cope up with the support lots of job oppurtunity came accross. i tried my luck and for me to have legal 'petiks' to go on AUX, happy for those people who really deserves to be on the position, but kinda irritated with those i know theres somebody better than that person. few weeks past, opening for email agent came accross. i tried my luck cause im confident enough i can make it cause i have support background for email. i no longer care about promotion, my friends are already there and i know they deserve those positions. i was already compose that i will have a goodtime with email support, unfortunately again a new LOB would comes in but they need to try it first with few agents that have both support background aio & dcd. i was part of those agent who will be doing it. i was not so sure about it until somebody approach me about it, i wasn't able to say NO to that person he's a long time crush of mine. i asked him about the details and he willingly provide me things i needed to knows. i askd the person directly handling the account what will happen, he just stated that its still in the process of deliberation. im not asking for it. yeah i know that only changes are constantly happening.its hurts though thats life. im now confuse about sudden change, and currently hesitant to be right other mingling with them.

can u just please be consistent with whats going on! i just want consistency guys, please do not say anything unless its so sure.

reminiscing the past . . . .

as i was browsing the files i have in my email i was able to see some of the pictures i have before . . . like this picture that i post. it was taken way back early 2006. i was broken hearted that time . . . see i look like a bitch!
hehehe . . . . somebody broke my heart.i treated him as my best buddy but unfortunately he just used me. good thing i was able to cope up. my friends are always there to guide me... thanks guys for being there for me.

end shifters!

its been a month since my last post....since im part of the end shifters and low call volume . . . i dn't have anything to do.
im currently staring at my computers monitor in the office & suddenly realize i need to update my blog...
i just wanted to share to you guys that im currently in love with colbie caillat song 'REALIZE' especially the part where it tells :

If you just realize what I just realized,
Then we’d be perfect for each other
And will never find another
Just realized what I just realized
We’d never have to wonder if
We missed out on each other now.

sad & sick . . . . . .

im sad & im sick . . .

after being away, right now im currently experiencing running nose & LBM . . . .

hay..... i don't know what to do anymore . . . . .