Wednesday, September 17, 2008

Is He Really The One?

Whether or not your partner is right for you is one of the mostimportant decisions of your life. Your entire future depends on thesechoices so how can you be sure you have the picked the right one?Well, the first thing you need to do is honestly ask yourself why youlove or are in love with your partner? You would be surprised at theanswers you hear when you ask that same question to your friends.The wrong answers to that question include the following:Because they love me.It's better than being alone.I don't want to hurt them.Because I am not sure I would find someone better.These answers indicate a relationship built upon fear, insecurity andpity.There are good matches out there, but if there are too many ifs, andsor buts, then sooner or later the relationship will fail. Now thatdoesn't mean you will break up, you could stay together for the restof your lives and still fail as a couple.So the question still remains, how do you choose the right partner?Obviously you are going to choose a partner that you are physicallyattracted to. Apart from that aspect, there are a few important areasyou should look at:Communication Level-When you talk to them, are they on the same levelas you? How long does it take them to answer your question? Do you getbored because they answer everything else under the sun rather thanthe question you asked or do you enjoy the tangents they take you on?Do they speak very slowly compared to you? Do they understand youwhen you speak? Can you really talk to them about absolutely anything?This may not seem important now but could you imagine living withsomeone for the next 50 - 70 years that can never answer a directquestion, frustrates you to no end by their speed of communication andjust doesn't get it when you are trying to explain something to them?Common Interests-This is really a given. You have to have something incommon with them to be able to be with them. Otherwise you will havenothing to talk about and nothing to do together. Yes, physically youmay have great sex,but how far can that really take you? When twopeople have different interests, one person usually ends upsacrificing their desires for the other person... or you end up livingcompletely separate lives.Ambitions-Do you both want the same things in life or are they goingto hold you back? Are they willing to let you have that career youhave always wanted. Even if it means working long hours plus going toschool at night?Ethics Level-Do they have the same values as you? Would they feeltotally OK doing something that you would have strong objections toor vice versa? Do you have the same beliefs on major issues such asreligion, prejudice, raising children etc? If not, is this somethingthat will become a problem in the future?Grooming and Cleanliness- Are they a slob and you the type of personthat likes to keep the house immaculate? Do you take the same level ofcare of your appearance?There is a lot of false information about relationships out there. Oneof the biggest lies is that opposites attract. That is really just amyth. Now a lot of the things listed above do come down to personalchoice.It comes down to what you are and are not willing to accept. Justbecause you have fallen in love with someone does not mean that theyare the righT one for you. The number of people in physically oremotionally abusive relationships should be testament enough to that.One thing is for sure. Do not settle for something less than you wantbecause you are scared of hurting them, being alone or you feel thismight be the best you can get.You never know what you might have missed that was right around thecorner.Settling is always settling, no matter what way you look at itBy doing so, you will be left with a lifetime of what ifs.love doesn't ask "why?" for it is a reason itself... love doesn't ask"what if?" for it is willing to risk all...love doesn't ask "untilwhen?" for it knows only forever...

ALONE

some things are not meant to be kept forever...
you know you have to stop
and let go when things aren't going right,
and everything you have are abused...
it is wiser to be alone but happy,
than be with somebody who does nothing but to make you feel stupid...

Monday, August 25, 2008

JEALOUSY

Feeling Jealous
Jealousy is one of the toughest feelings we come up against in our lives. There is not much worse than this aching sense that somehow life has been unfair to us, while amply rewarding someone else. It's even worse if that someone else is present in our daily lives, making it difficult for us to get the space we need to feel and heal our pain. We may be jealous of a sibling, a dear friend, or even famous personalities. We may even face the challenge of feeling jealous of our spouse, our child, or one of our parents. Whatever the case, we can normalize our experience by understanding that, as painful as it is, jealousy is a common human feeling.

Nevertheless, it is important that we not revel in our jealousy for too long, feeding it with inner talk or gossip with others. If we do, we run the risk of losing ourselves to its negative power. Jealousy has something good to offer us, though, and that is information about our own heart's desire. When we are jealous of certain people, we want what they have, and if we are to be conscious, we must acknowledge that. In this way, we discover what we want for ourselves, which is the first step to getting it. It may be a certain kind of relationship or a career. Whatever it is, it is possible that we could create it for ourselves, in our own lives, if we are able to honor our own desires.

Of course, there are times when we cannot heal our jealousy in this way, and then the lesson may be about acceptance and the understanding that our path is different from the paths of those around us. It may be hard to see now, but perhaps it will eventually be clear why our life has taken its particular path. In the end, the best cure for jealousy is the recognition that the life we have is full of its own meaning and beauty, utterly unique to us—a gift that could never be found in the life of another.

CHANGES . . . . .

its been awhile since i write something here, almost 2 months of not writing anything. busy with the transition thats happenings from 1 LOB to another. i was able to cope up with the support lots of job oppurtunity came accross. i tried my luck and for me to have legal 'petiks' to go on AUX, happy for those people who really deserves to be on the position, but kinda irritated with those i know theres somebody better than that person. few weeks past, opening for email agent came accross. i tried my luck cause im confident enough i can make it cause i have support background for email. i no longer care about promotion, my friends are already there and i know they deserve those positions. i was already compose that i will have a goodtime with email support, unfortunately again a new LOB would comes in but they need to try it first with few agents that have both support background aio & dcd. i was part of those agent who will be doing it. i was not so sure about it until somebody approach me about it, i wasn't able to say NO to that person he's a long time crush of mine. i asked him about the details and he willingly provide me things i needed to knows. i askd the person directly handling the account what will happen, he just stated that its still in the process of deliberation. im not asking for it. yeah i know that only changes are constantly happening.its hurts though thats life. im now confuse about sudden change, and currently hesitant to be right other mingling with them.

can u just please be consistent with whats going on! i just want consistency guys, please do not say anything unless its so sure.

Wednesday, June 25, 2008

reminiscing the past . . . .

as i was browsing the files i have in my email i was able to see some of the pictures i have before . . . like this picture that i post. it was taken way back early 2006. i was broken hearted that time . . . see i look like a bitch!
hehehe . . . . somebody broke my heart.i treated him as my best buddy but unfortunately he just used me. good thing i was able to cope up. my friends are always there to guide me... thanks guys for being there for me.

Tuesday, June 24, 2008

end shifters!

its been a month since my last post....since im part of the end shifters and low call volume . . . i dn't have anything to do.
im currently staring at my computers monitor in the office & suddenly realize i need to update my blog...
i just wanted to share to you guys that im currently in love with colbie caillat song 'REALIZE' especially the part where it tells :

If you just realize what I just realized,

Then we’d be perfect for each other
And will never find another
Just realized what I just realized
We’d never have to wonder if
We missed out on each other now.

Friday, May 16, 2008

sad & sick . . . . . .

im sad & im sick . . .

after being away, right now im currently experiencing running nose & LBM . . . .

hay..... i don't know what to do anymore . . . . .

Thursday, May 15, 2008

it's me again . . . .

after being away for almost 5days in the office . . . . .

i was able to get some rest . . . . last saturday my brother asked me to go with them in their weekend getaway in dasmariƱas, cavite . . . . . . the place we visited was a very nice place . . . . . the place is very green and very relaxing in the eye it is one of the most beautiful places that ive been near manila. . . .

after the relaxing weekend, i started my week with a very noisy week . . . . i spend time with my nephews & nieces . . . its fun to be around with kids . . . . . im starting to regain the kid in me . . . hehehehe

and now that im in the office . . . i feel like sleeping again . . .

ciao!

Friday, May 9, 2008

im not feeling weLl . . .

i was late for my work, im not even sure if i can make it but i sure did . . . .

memories from the past came across my mind . . . .
i just hope i would be ok for the rest of my day off . . .

Thursday, May 8, 2008

rainy thursday . . . .

rain rain go away come again another day . . . . .

thats the song that comes into my mind right after i wake up today . . . .
its raining outside . . . . and i need to travel from manila to quezon city with my jacket & umbrella w/ me. the mrt is full as usual its already an ordinary thing that happens everyday of my life its either i take a cab or i ride the train . . . . hay . . . . hope that my day would be ok.

Wednesday, May 7, 2008

last song syndrome


here i am
air supply

Here I am playing with those memories again
And just when I thought time had set me free
Those thoughts of you keep taunting me
Holding you, a feeling I never outgrew
Though each and every part of me has tried
Only you can fill that space inside
So there's no sense pretending
My heart it's not mending

CHORUS
Just when I thought I was over you
And just when I thought I could stand on my own
Oh baby those memories come crashing through
And I just can't go on without you

On my own I've tried to make the best of it alone
I've done everything I can to ease the pain
But only you can stop the rain
I just can't live without you
I miss everything about you
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i just heard the song today and it got stuck on my mind...
i remember those things happen in the past
its hard to go on specially if that past was an awful experience.

Tuesday, May 6, 2008

i love the beach . . . .

in time for the summer. i just wanted to share my thoughts in going to places. i should say that im a beach person. i don't know how to swim, eventhough i have a swimming class as part of the curriculum wayback in college. i love the sun, the sea & the sand. the most memorable place that ive been in the past was boracay & palawan. in bora, as we all know its really a nice place to have fun & to enjoy life to the fullest. wayback in college i visited puerto princesa, the place was so beautiful, the people are very much accommodating & honest. and im not really sure if you've heard of coron, palawan. coron is known for its rock formations and wwII japanese shipwrecks. i love the place. i worked before for one of the resorts in coron but i was base in manila, every now & then i visited coron for 8 months. it was fun.....

travelling alone



as i was viewing this picture of me travelling alone . . . . taking pictures of me all by myself was so boring . . . . imagine the hours i was sitting inside the bus going back to manila . . . it sucks you know. but come to think of it, when your on your travelling on your own you can actually associate it on your journey in life. though its hard to make decisions in life you really have to think a million times before you push through with it unlike the journey i made from southern leyte to manila.